What a convenient time to learn how to fight with your partner while we are stuck together due to COVID-19?! Seriously though, we are stuck together with the people in our homes and this creates many, many opportunities to learn (or put into practice) skills to have healthy conflict. I will be the first to admit, we all need the practice. Even if we weren’t legally ordered to stay at home with our families, it’s probable that you’re going to have disagreements on how to navigate through this time.
Online Counseling for Infidelity
Many people fall into one small problem: showing up to a counselor’s office isn’t an option right now, for whatever reason. Maybe you or your partner travel for work and are gone for most weeks out of the year. It could be possible you can only do late evenings or weekends and the office building is locked down at that time. Maybe you have children and it’s not possible to drive into the office or there is no one to come to the house to watch the kids. For the most common right now, maybe there is a global pandemic occurring and counselors are only seeing clients via telehealth. Whatever it may be, you can still do the work. You can still reap the benefits of in person therapy during this difficult time from the comfort of your own home/office/hotel/wherever.
How to Handle Someone Not Listening
Ever leave a conversation with your partner feeling not listened to? What about feeling defeated? Pissed? Misunderstood? If you have walked away from a conversation feeling like nothing you said mattered, that feels terrible! We all have been the one feeling defeated and the one who’s not showing off their good listening skills. Either way, there are some things you can do to improve the chances of being listened to. Keep in mind, that just because you’re choosing to try to be an effective communicator doesn’t mean that the other person will be a good listener. The goal here is to try to be as clear and intentional about your message in a specific way which will likely lead to being listened to. Hopefully, whoever you’re talking to will be able to follow suit and both of you will feel heard, understood, and respected.
When We Disagree On Parenting Styles
Let’s face it: kids are both wonderful and enlightening little humans. Their arrival into the world can bring chaos, crying, and sleepless nights; but also insight and perspective. They say that one of the most challenging stressors in a relationship is having a child. This may sound like a “well duh!” statement, but it’s easy to forget when its your own child.
How to Deepen Love
Time for the big question. How do you deepen love?
Maybe you’ve been in that new love which is full of passion and excitement, and now it’s settling down to the more dependable (and dare I say mundane) type of relationship. Maybe you’ve been married for 15-years and you love your partner, but you also feel lonely and wish for a stronger connection. Maybe you’ve never felt a deep type of love and wonder how others manage to feel that way. No matter what…