Speak Your Truth

Speak Your Truth

Tell me if this sounds familiar.

I was having a conversation the other day with a friend, and she was complaining about her husband - that he doesn't help her around the house when she's actively doing things. She'll, literally, be going from room to room, picking up laundry, cups, and toys along the way, while her husband is sitting on his phone or watching tv. When that's done, she'll start a load of dishes and laundry. By this time, her husband has asked what time dinner will be. Then she'll get angry that he's not helping, so she'll walk in the other room and tell him he sucks and that he can cook for himself. He gets angry back because he doesn't know why she's mad in the first place, he was just asking what time dinner was going to be ready and she's always been the one to cook in the family. In fact, she's the one that likes to cook! 

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Five Reasons to Put Yourself First

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Five Reasons to Put Yourself First

Tell me if this sounds familiar.

Annabelle is a working woman.  She's got a full-time job that she loves, a partner that she loves, and great friends.  She balances her time doing extra work around the office or bringing work home (trying to move up in her corporation), being with her partner through outings, dinner, or relaxing (usually with work in tow), and attending get-togethers with friends, whether planned or spontaneous.  With all intents and purposes, Annabelle should feel ecstatic.  In her own words, "I have everything I wanted to have at this point in my life..."

(wait for it...).

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Are We Even Compatible?!

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Are We Even Compatible?!

Here's a question I've heard before - maybe it's even a question you've asked yourself in the heat of battle...

Is this normal or are we not actually compatible?

Then, for the icing on the cake: Shouldn't I be feeling (insert your choice of feeling word - the one that you've probably said to yourself before)?!

Well, let's talk, shall we? 

First, that's a scary question at any point in a relationship. I would say especially when you've invested a certain amount of time and energy into making it work. To feel that sick thud of doubt is terrifying for many people and... it doesn't actually mean anything.

Don't Confuse Strength with Stoicism

Don't Confuse Strength with Stoicism

This might be one of the areas that I feel most strongly about.

This misguided, societal belief that being strong equates to being stoic. That showing emotions is a sign of weakness, rather than an immense sign of strength. That to cry is to not be strong enough to hold it together. That nobody is walking around in pain, with anxiety, or dealing with depression, grief, and sorrow.

WHY, I ask you?! WHY?!