You Know What To Do, But Do You DO It?
Here’s the scenario. I’m in session with a couple and we start an intervention that requires stating things from a personal perspective for one person and listening and summarizing for the other (without giving their interpretation or jumping into why). Easy peasy, right? WRONG.
Own Your ‘Stuff’
This isn’t a fun topic for people, although I would argue it’s one of the most necessary things that people should do. Personally, I love this topic. I love seeing people self reflect in such a way that they can honestly own whatever it is that they’re doing in a given situation. I also personally love this topic–I’d rather know what my stuff is then have it metaphorically slap me in the face later on to the point that I feel completely blindsided.
Conflict Avoidance by Listening (Easy as Pie)
You know the song and dance... Partner one says, “I’m upset about this thing that happened.” Partner two says, “I didn’t do anything wrong!” Partner one says, “You did xyz!” Partner two says, “That’s only because you did abc!” And then the two careen into a fight that has no real beginning and no real end.
Give Your Brain a Break
Think about the very first thing you do in the morning. If you’re like the vast majority of people (let’s stick with in the United States), then you probably reach to your nightstand and check your phone. I’m assuming you check for social media updates, personal and work email, and maybe the news. Am I guessing right?
Dealing with Difficult People
We’ve all been there. There’s that one person who just gets under our skin, who we can’t understand, and who operates in a way that makes little to no sense to us.
Three Keys to a Successful Relationship
There are three basic things you can do to make sure that your relationship is in a good place. Granted, I can’t make you (or your partner or partners) do any of these things, but I can let you know what these basic things are in the hopes that you’ll start to implement them.
Embrace the Boredom of Life
I’m just going to come out and say it. Life can be boring, mundane, and monotonous. There. It’s out in the open. Can’t take it back.
Your Life Is Now, Not in Five Years
I’m sure I’ve read something similar to this somewhere–most things I reflect on come from things I read or hear (probably not alone in that). SO, it was this notion that the best predictors for where you’re going to be tomorrow and then the next day and then the next week and so on is not where you are today, but what you’re doing.