You Know What To Do, But Do You DO It?
Here’s the scenario. I’m in session with a couple and we start an intervention that requires stating things from a personal perspective for one person and listening and summarizing for the other (without giving their interpretation or jumping into why). Easy peasy, right? WRONG.
Own Your ‘Stuff’
This isn’t a fun topic for people, although I would argue it’s one of the most necessary things that people should do. Personally, I love this topic. I love seeing people self reflect in such a way that they can honestly own whatever it is that they’re doing in a given situation. I also personally love this topic–I’d rather know what my stuff is then have it metaphorically slap me in the face later on to the point that I feel completely blindsided.
Embrace the Boredom of Life
I’m just going to come out and say it. Life can be boring, mundane, and monotonous. There. It’s out in the open. Can’t take it back.
Anxiety–Part II (Existential)
Alrighty, friends. This is a continuation of the first part in a series of posts on anxiety. Each post covers one distinct aspect of anxiety (existential, biological and genetic, evolutionary, psychological, and behavioral) and all aspects can comprise your (or anybody’s) experience with anxiety.
What Function Does it Serve?
Y’all are going to think I’m crazy, but this is way too relevant to not share. Okay–so most of us want to figure out what our problems are so that we can change them right away, so that we can fix them and be done with it. I mean, people come into therapy and counseling specifically for that reason. They feel some level of distress (something isn't quite working in their life) and they’re not quite sure what or how to “fix it.” Here’s where I come in...
Why Anxiety Is Rewarding
This is going to sound like the most confusing thing ever, but just hear me out. Anxiety is rewarding. There, I said it. It’s rewarding. Please don’t misunderstand, though. Anxiety is rewarding does not equal it’s healthy to get lost in ‘what if’ thoughts that consume your life. It also does not equal don’t give your brain time off because it likes to be worked 24/7/365.
Five Reasons to Put Yourself First
Tell me if this sounds familiar. Annabelle is a working woman. She’s got a full-time job that she loves, a partner that she loves, and great friends. She balances her time doing extra work around the office or bringing work home (trying to move up in her corporation), being with her partner through outings, dinner, or relaxing (usually with work in tow), and attending get-togethers with friends, whether planned or spontaneous. With all intents and purposes, Annabelle should feel ecstatic. In her own words, “I have everything I wanted to have at this point in my life...”